5 Easy Excuses to Failure

 

What really keeps people from achieving their dreams?  I can tell you what it isn’t – it isn’t lack of money, luck, talent or time.

Some people like to use these things as excuses, but they really aren’t the reasons people fail.

For a lot of young people, failure is a matter of attitude and mindset.  If you have a positive attitude and your belief in your dream is greater than your doubts and you are committed to making it happen and willing to do whatever it takes, then you can achieve your dreams.

If you have a negative attitude and give a lot of attention to your doubts, then you are likely stepping up to failure.

“It’s not my fault.”

It’s really easy and convenient to place blame on people or circumstances around you for your lack of success.  You can blame your parents, the economy, your lack of money, but none of that is at fault if you fail to achieve your dream.  The only way to succeed is to take responsibility for your results.  If you don’t achieve your dream, it’s because you gave up before it happened.

“It’s too hard.”

When you say “it’s too hard,” is that what you really mean?  Or are you really saying you just don’t want to put that much effort into what needs to be done?  When you give up will you use ridiculous excuses like, “It just didn’t work out.”

Starting a new business means you have to expand yourself.  It requires growing, learning and finding new strengths.  That kind of growth will give you a sense of fulfillment, confidence and increased self-esteem.   And sticking to it gives you the opportunity to achieve your dream.

“I need to think about it more.”

There is a natural rhythm to the lives of successful people that goes Think–Do …. Think–Do.  Unsuccessful people get caught in the trap of over thinking things and never taking action or they take action without consideration.  Either way the result is exhausting without achieving anything.

“I don’t think I can do it.”

At this stage in your life and experience, it isn’t likely that you are going to try to attempt something that has never been done before.  Therefore, whatever your dream is, it is possible to achieve it.  When you think that you can’t do it, I believe you are really asking if you’ll follow through, not if it’s possible or not.  You really need to stop worrying about whether it’s possible or not, whether you can do it not and just go for it.  Even if you do fail, you will still be closer to your dream than you are without going for it.                                                                                                                                                       “I’m not feeling It.”

Sometimes you start out on a path toward your dream or goal and you realize that you aren’t feeling it.  Do you give it up or keep going?  Sometimes it just isn’t worth it to keep going.  That’s okay, just let it go and start looking for something else.  The difference between giving up, which is a way to being a victim of your failure and changing your mind and looking for new options is a positive decision.  In this case, choosing something new that you feel passionate about is a good choice.

The choice is yours, are you going to give more power to your dreams or your doubts?  Will you take the steps to failure or take the path to success?

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.” – Jim Rohn

 

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shawn - October 11, 2012

Great reminders that we hold the keys to our future in our own hands and its up to us to use them or to make excuses. I understand about being scared but I got tired of the excuses and am going for it.
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    Julia - October 12, 2012

    Thank you for your comments Shawn. You go girl. I absolutely support no more excuses.

Tink - October 11, 2012

SUCCESS IS FAILURE TURNED INSIDE OUT

BRAVO! Understanding ‘failure’ is such a critical message. Until I was in my 20s, I believed ‘failure’ was a permanent outcome to a given situation. Sadly, it came from my father who passed-forward to his children a declaration he heard from his parents, “Quick frankly, you ARE a FAILURE.” How sad so many of us go through life often feeling defeated by an illusionary belief. Failure is a verb not a noun. It is a critical part of our journey. Failure is a stepping-stone toward Success. The inevitable experience of failure will often teach us much more than a success. Sir Winston Churchill said, “Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.”

There is a wonderful, inspiring short movie based on a famous poem which was written many years ago. Here is the link: http://www.thedontquitpoem.com

The author of this poem is unknown. Sadly, in recent years, a number of people have claimed ownership of the poem and some have even claimed to have written it themselves. Here is the original poem in its entirety:

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill
When the funds are low and the debts are high
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh
When care is pressing you down a bit
Rest, if you must
But don’t you quit
Life is queer with its twists and turns
As every one of us sometimes learns
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow
You may succeed with another blow
Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor’s cup
And he learned too late when the night slipped down
How close he was to the golden crown
SUCCESS IS FAILURE TURNED INSIDE OUT
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt
And you never can tell how close you are
It may be near when it seems so far
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit
– Author unknown

    Julia - October 12, 2012

    Thank you for sharing your story and this great poem Tink. I think a lot of us have tape loops from childhood that we have to overcome. I’ll check out that movie, thank you for the link.

Jan - October 11, 2012

A great message for people of all ages. “I don’t think I can do it” resonates with me. I thought that for a long time, and guess what – you don’t know until you try.
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    Julia - October 12, 2012

    You’re absolutely right Jan, you don’t know until you try. I think more than one of those used to apply to me, but I’ve come a long way baby!

Debbie - October 12, 2012

My excuse is that I need to study to much. You are right, you need to just get started. I am working on that the last couple of months.
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    Julia - October 12, 2012

    Excuses are just barriers that we throw up in own path. I stopped making excuses too and now have my first book published and am writing the second book using this blog challenge. My attitude now is that I don’t have time for excuses! Thank you for sharing.

Nanette Levin - October 12, 2012

This is a great reminder about how much attitude affects outcome. The one that really gets me bothered – particularly when I hear it from a contractor or potential hire is ‘it’s not my fault.’ Even if it isn’t, don’t tell me that, offer a solution. Usually, though, it is (if you need to say it . . . )

    Julia - October 12, 2012

    Attitude is everything. I agree with you that if you need say it isn’t your fault, it probably is. Being defensive is such an odd thing to do, particularly if you’re defending yourself against something you actually are responsible for. The only one you are fooling is yourself.

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