How to Find Your Passion (The Secret You Need to Hear)

Today’s article was written by guest blogger, James Clear, of The Passive PandaJames offers a counterpoint, an alternative perspective, if you will, to picking your passion.  I think his ideas are worth considering as they may a lot of sense. 

 

 

Wouldn’t it be great if we could all spend our days doing what we love?

I’ve received a lot of emails recently asking how to do just that. In the end, they all come to a similar conclusion, “I honestly can’t figure out a clear direction for myself.”

I think it’s normal for all of us to feel that way from time to time.

Searching for your passion and yearning for your true calling seems to be an integral part of the human experience.

That said, I think we often approach the process of finding our passion in the wrong way.

I’ve made these mistakes before as well, so I’m not claiming innocence … but I’ve also done it the right way from time to time, and so based off of those experiences, here’s my take on finding your passion.

We’ve got it all backwards.

Stop worrying so much about finding your passion.

You can’t strategically discover it through some intellectual scavenger hunt. You’re probably searching for it because you think that it will bring you clarity. ”If I know what I’m passionate about, then I’ll know what I should spend my time doing.”

That sounds good in theory … but it’s the complete opposite of how the process actually works.

Passions are born out of experiences.

You love your favorite team because it was the first football game you ever went to … or at the very least it was the team that you and your family cheered on from your living room. You’re crazy about that one movie because of how it made you feel when you watched it for the first time. You cry whenever you hear that sad song because it was the first song you heard after your grandfather died. You love sailing because you like the taste of salt on your lips, wind in your hair, and sun on your back.

These are examples of experiences that left a mark on you. The emotions that they conjure up — the passion that you feel — only came after that initial experience.

Discovering your passion for work and life follows that same pattern. I’ve never suddenly become passionate about something while sitting around on the couch. If you want to discover a burning passion, then you need to put yourself in a position to have a burning experience.

You need to read something new, talk to someone new, go somewhere new. “New” can mean unfamiliar, but it doesn’t have to mean that. Maybe you know a lot about horses, but you’ve never been to the Kentucky Derby. Go there. Try it out. See where it takes you. Have a new experience — whether that’s around a familiar topic or an unfamiliar one.

Before you discover your passion, you need to be curious and take action. You need to make different choices. You need to search out new opportunities. You need to create new experiences.

It is in the act of creating new experiences that we discover who we are.

If you’re searching for your passion now and haven’t found it yet, what makes you think continuing your search in the same way will magically bring your passion to you? You have to change your actions if you want to change the outcome.

If you want a new passion, then you need to create a new experience.

What you like vs. what you know.

Once you’ve accepted that you need to put yourself in new situations to discover your passion, how do you decide where to start?

Most people will tell you to start with what you know. I disagree.

If everyone only did what they already knew, then we would never learn new skills, change careers, or try anything different.

Let’s say that you work as a sales rep in the pharmaceutical industry. If you can’t find your passion right now, then what makes you think that sticking with what you know (pharmaceutical sales) is going to help you find your passion?

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with utilizing your current skill set. In fact, I encourage that. There’s no reason to waste the talent you already have. But don’t choose a new path simply because you can do it.

Your choices should be based on what you like and not what you know. What you like is different than what you’re passionate about. Likes may turn into passions eventually, but they are simply interests right now. Everyone has an interest in something.

Maybe the pharmaceutical sales rep likes movies. What if he started looking for jobs in sales and marketing for a media company? Or a cinema company? Or a theater company? He could still use what he knows (sales and marketing) … but he’s basing the decision on what he likes.

When you’re searching for your passion, it’s important to pursue things that you enjoy for one reason…

To find your passion, you need to dedicate yourself to a cause.

Eventually, the new experiences that you have will help you with the next step: finding a goal to work towards. Reaching for a goal is a powerful thing because it will take you to places you could never envision beforehand.

The act of reaching for goals — whatever they are, and whether or not they are ultimately reached — plunges us into a strong current that carries us to places that we can never expect or know when we embark. —K.O.

The value in having a goal and pursuing new experiences is as much the journey it leads us on — the experiences we have, the lessons we learn, the doors it opens — as it is the accomplishment of reaching it. You cannot predict where a journey will lead and what passions it will reveal. You can only start the journey and let the passions evolve naturally.

The pursuit will bring your passion to you.

How can I be so certain?

I’m certain because I know that what you’re looking for isn’t necessarily “passion” or a “calling”, but rather it’s one perfect moment.

You’re searching for that sliver of time when you say, “This is right. This is what I’m supposed to be doing and where I’m supposed to be at this moment. Right here, right now, this is what I was meant to do.”

I’ve been fortunate enough to feel like that before, and I can tell you that you don’t find moments like that, they find you.

And when you show up every day and dedicate yourself to a cause and continue your journey towards new experiences and new goals, those perfect moments have a tendency of finding you more often.

Finding your passion isn’t about knowing with certainty that you have chosen the right direction for yourself. It’s about picking a direction and pursuing it with urgency and consistency and enthusiasm.

If you do that, then the experiences that you have will bring your passion to you

James Clear is the Founder of Passive Panda.  He started the business to teach the three pillars of earning more money… freelancing, employment, and entrepreneurship.  Passive Panda covers all three of these areas in depth, and teaches you how to develop an overall earning strategy for your life.

 

 

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Laura - October 4, 2012

I like where you say:
“If everyone only did what they already knew, then we would never learn new skills, change careers, or try anything different.”

So True. If we do not go out and beyond where we already are, then we will not progress, develop and succeed.

When I start to feel uncomfortable with a situation, this is how I know where my starting point is. It may apear out of no-where. On the phone (old school), writing about a new subject or a new venture, if it kinda feels like I have a know in my stomach, well… that to me is a good thing.

Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. That is what I call ‘the starting point’. if I am too comfortable, then i already know how to do it (or at least I think I do).

When you say ” It’s about picking a direction and pursuing it with urgency and consistency and enthusiasm” that is knowing there is no turning back and you have found where you belong. If you do all those things in the pursuit of your goal you have found your niche and your ‘calling’.

Thanks…
Laura
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Roy A. Ackerman, Ph.D., E.A. - October 4, 2012

I agree that we need experiences to determine what it is that fuels us. However, I would not recommend to that detail rep leaving his job for a chance at finding his passion… Instead, I would recommend him spending his evenings and weekends trying out new things and new circles… and then seeing what intrigues him. And, building from that…
Leaving a secure paid position to take a fling- at who knows what- or if it will- with no clear path… Only for the young.
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    Julia - October 4, 2012

    Great point Roy. I even recommend that my clients don’t quit that job at Burger King until they find something else. We can’t afford to walk away from honest income these days until there is something to walk through, at least not without a safety net.

    Thank you for stopping by.

laur - October 4, 2012

You make a lot of great points here! What people don’t do after they spend time experiencing life and/or dedicating themselves to a cause is sit back and reflect on how and why those experiences ~ those moments~ resonate with them….they often allow the busy-ness of life to take over and don’t determine the power those experiences have in our lives!!!

    Julia - October 4, 2012

    Thank you for your comments Laura. Actually James Clear of Passive Panda made the points. I agree that he has made some great points. I do have an exercise I wrote in a previous post about searching your memories to see if you can identify a theme about what you felt passionate about. For my young clients it’s a good exercise because they don’t have an abundance of life experiences to draw from. On the other hand, some of my clients have so few good experiences to remember. It’s a real catch 22.

Peggy Lee Hanson - October 4, 2012

I love and applaud James’ way of thinking! If you are unsure what your passion is, it will most certainly find you! Life passions fluctuate with every life-change; however, what you bring to the passion doesn’t.

    Julia - October 4, 2012

    Thank you stopping by and comment PeggyLee. I like that – “what you bring to the passion doesn’t [change].” And yes, I agree, if you aren’t sure what your passion is, it will find you. I know that happened in my case. I’m passionate about a number of things but two paths laid themselves down at my feet and over time I’ve traveled both. Finally, I learned how to integrate them so now I’m living the best of both worlds.

Amethyst Mahoney - October 4, 2012

Interesting post. When people ask me how to find their passion, these days I often ask them what they like to do and then circle down to their cause, which is kind of what is covered here.

However, trying too many new things can defeat the purpose. I have recently gotten rid of many of my hobbies and activities over the years, but other people seem to feel the need to keep things related to them, mostly out of guilt about the expense of the items.
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    Julia - October 4, 2012

    You hit on a few great points Amethyst. Finding your cause is a good one. I have been “working” within my cause, my why, for many years now, only now, it’s exclusively on my own terms and I’m loving that. I can be as creative as I want without anyone trying to reign me in because I do have a tendency to dream big.

    Also, I agree that many people have a hard time letting go. In the past three years I have had three very successful yard sales letting go of old hobbies and collections in trade for money. It feels so good to let go of old stuff.

    Thank you for adding to the conversation, I appreciate your support.

katie - October 4, 2012

Absolutely great insights. Beautiful and helpful.
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    Julia - October 4, 2012

    Thank you reading and commenting Katie. I appreciate that you found James Clear’s post to have great insights and be helpful. I thought that too which is why I asked him if I could “borrow” his article.

Tracey - October 5, 2012

Great post! I also urge everyone to find their passion and live it. There is nothing quite like it!

    Julia - October 5, 2012

    Thank you for stopping by Tracey. I agree! You can’t be stressed when you’re living your passion.

Alexandria Barker - October 5, 2012

Hi, really enjoyed this blog post. Tweeted & shared. Here’s to following your bliss!
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    Julia - October 5, 2012

    I’m glad you enjoyed it Alexandria. Thank you for dropping in.

Marilyn Schendel - October 6, 2012

I met with a coach recently and she asked what was my passion and I sat and stared into space and replied I don’t know – been in a slump lately over what direction to go in with my business. We sat and discussed some things and got to some areas that did arouse me out of my stupor and yes these were based on experiences where I decided this is what I like to do. This is where my passion found me and I said oh there you are~ my passionate self. I feel our passion finds us and not the other way around at times-thank you for this wonderful post! Marilyn
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    Julia - October 6, 2012

    Thank you for your kind words, I’m so happy that you found the post “wonderful.” I believe that our passions develop as we have life experiences so in a sense, I think you can say “passion finds us.” On the other hand, I also believe that we attract some experiences based on our passions. It’s sort of like the chicken/egg question. But thankfully, we can find passion whenever we look for it and are open to it, or recognize it.

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