Last night at dinner I told one of my friends that if I could certify 100 coaches this year, I could gross $350,000 and that I made that one of my business goals. His immediate response was to make a negative comment about how hard that would be and just about impossible.
My first inclination was to tell him he was wrong, that it’s not impossible and to launch into a lecture about the Law of Attraction and global training via teleseminar or webinar. I ended up not doing that because I realized that would open the door to a back and forth disagreement and I didn’t want to give him any power in the situation. When you give someone else power in any situation, you take away from you own power. I give away a lot, but my own power is not a freebie.
What I did end up saying was that it might be impossible for him, however, I’ve made a decision to be fearless from now on and believe that it is entirely possible for me. Whether I reach that goal or not isn’t as important as the fact that this is what I aspire to and am going for.
So what could he say to that? I didn’t make him wrong, I didn’t start an argument, I didn’t insult him really. It just ended that conversation and we moved on to something else.
This exchange made me wonder if it’s a good idea to share goals with others. I’ve aIways believed it was a good idea to share goals, that it makes them more real and other people can spur you on toward your goal. I still believe that.
My take away from this experience is that if you are going to share your goals, you should be prepared to counter any negative comments with something that is neutral and will not cause a back and forth disagreement. It’s always best to be able to neutralize a negative energy rather than have to do battle with it so sheath your claws and neutralize the negativity.
