Life Fulfillment Reality Check

Part two of our reality check exercises includes examining the following 11 categories in your life.  Rate yourself from 1 – 10 in each of the categories listed on the chart below.  1 is low – it couldn’t be any worse than this.  10 is high – it couldn’t get any better than this.  Don’t overanalyze your response.  The right score is what pops into your head first.  Next, choose a higher number for a 6-month goal.  If you choose a “10” it may be a sign that you are in denial.  It’s difficult for anything to be perfect.  Big goals are good, but they must be based in reality.

My Overall Satisfaction.  What does satisfaction mean?  Do you enjoy getting up in the morning?  Do you enjoy your life?  Do you feel satisfied?  Do you think you deserve to be happy?

My Energy Level.  Are you naturally energetic?  Do you get enough sleep at night?  Do you stay up too late or all night then drink coffee, soda pop, or energy drinks to stay awake?  Do you get high to get through the day?

My Spiritual Connection.  Do you feel connected to a higher power in whatever way you define it (God, Universe, Trusted Source, Spirit)?  Do you have activities in your life that help you stay connected?  What do you do to nurture this connection — hike, spend time in nature, meditate, participate in religious activities, and so on?

My Health.  Are you healthy in mind, body, and spirit or are you ignoring your health?  Do you see a doctor and a dentist when you need to?  And what about your mental health?  Are you feeling good or are you depressed?  Are you angry all of the time?  Do you ask for help when you are feeling depressed or angry or do you just suffer?

My Nutrition.  Do you eat healthy foods or do you stop at the gas station to get junk food?  Do you drink lots of soda pop and eat at fast food restaurants or do you eat real food like meat, vegetables, and fruits?

My Exercise.  Do you take the time to exercise on a regular basis or are you more of a couch potato gaming, watching TV, or texting your friends all day and/or all night long?

My Connection to Family.  What is your relationship with your family?  Do you feel connected to them?  Do you love your family?  Do you feel that your family loves you?

My Connection to Friends.  Do you feel connected to your friends?  Do you love and respect your friends?  Do you feel that your friends love and respect you?

My Integrity.  Integrity means you follow through with what you say you will do with others and with yourself.  Do you keep your agreements with yourself and with others or do you make commitments and not follow through?

My Finances.  Do you save your money and spend it wisely or do you buy things on a whim?  Do you waste money on things you don’t need?  Do you have a bank account?  If you have a bank account, do you know how to manage it?

My Contribution to the World.  Are you helping others or are you only out for yourself?

Directions:   For each category in the “My Life Fulfillment Reality Check”    chart, rate each category on a scale of 1-10 with 1 being “I really need to improve a lot.” and 10 being “I’m doing fantastic!”  Total the columns and answer the questions below.


My Life Fulfillment Reality Check


My Current Reality Is

Where I Want to Be

My Overall Satisfaction

My Energy Level

My Spiritual Connection

My Health

My Nutrition

My Exercise

My Connection to Family

My Connection to Friends

My Integrity

My Finances

My Contribution to the World


Today = ___________ My Intention = ___________

Now, add up the scores for your current reality and your 6-month goal to get a clear picture of how much work you have to do.  Having a realistic picture of what your life is like and how you feel about it can be very empowering if you use the knowledge gained to make some positive changes.

Did anything about this exercise surprise you?

Can you identify any areas that you can begin making improvements in right now?

What steps are you willing to take to make these improvements?


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Tracey Burnett - September 10, 2012

Great blog Julia, well worth everyone of us doing regulary!

    Julia - September 10, 2012

    I agree Tracey. Exercises like this help us stay aware of where we are physically, emotionally and mentally at any given time. It’s a good way to check in with yourself.

    Thank you for commenting.

Kama - September 10, 2012

This is a really useful exercise and worthwhile for all of us to do once in a while. We are habitual creatures and often don’t notice when something is not quite right until it is worse than it needed to be. Good reminder.
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    Julia - September 10, 2012

    Thank you for your comment Kama. Sometimes we need to be reminded to check in with ourselves. It actually helps us move forward by seeing where changes need to be made. I try to do this exercise every quarter just to keep myself in line!

Pam Ahern - September 10, 2012

That was fun and interesting. When you asked more questions that go with the different areas, I had to give myself lower scores in energy. I get alot done, but around 4 pm I am ready to slow down. Then I get a second wind later in the evening. I am working with a medical intuitive to help me with that area. Perhaps I’ll revisit the Reality Check in a few months and score higher.
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    Julia - September 10, 2012

    Thank you for your comment Pam. I’ve been using this exercise quarterly just to help me keep track. I was surprised the first time I realized something went in the wrong direction. That was an eye opener and I was able to get back on track because I did realize that something went amiss.

katie - September 10, 2012

A coach I met with once shared a similar exercise using a circle broken into different life areas. These are powerful done at different times. This was sobering for me, as simple as it is. Thank you. xo
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    Julia - September 10, 2012

    Thank you for your comment Katie. This exercise would work well in a pie chart as well. I’m glad you liked it even though it’s simple. I actually learned this technique from my coach and adapted it so I could use it with teenagers. It’s the first time some of them realize that there is so much to consider when relating to their lives.

Lena - September 11, 2012

Great exercise, it really helps to learn where we need to make improvements. Thanks, Lena
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    Julia - September 12, 2012

    Thank you Lena, I’m glad you found the exercise useful. It’s always a good idea to know where we are at any given time.

Amy Putkonen - September 12, 2012

Hi Julia!

I love this exercise. I am listening to a book right now and they had a similar exercise to this one. I like things like that that really make you think about your life direction. Thanks for sharing!
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    Julia - September 13, 2012

    Thank you for your comment Amy. I also love exercises like this. The things we discover about ourselves when we tune in can be life changing. It’s my pleasure to share good stuff.

The Great Gordino - September 13, 2012

That is a *great* list Julia!
I think anyone doing it will end up with some clear direction, and clear goals for the next 6 months, plus a way to measure the action takne by repeating the exercise.

Very nice,
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    Julia - September 13, 2012

    Thank you for leaving your comment Gordon. You’re right that this tool provides for measurable goals and outcomes. It’s important to take stock once in while to see if we are on the right track for where we want to be and end up.

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